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Cruising…

Sue and I have taken a number of TransAtlantic cruises over the last decade; we especially like the days at sea. There is a lot positive to be said about cruising, but there are certainly drawbacks. Over the years, we have become less able to deal with the drawbacks, so we are resolved not to go on another, but I think I said that the last time.

Anyway we flew to the East Coast and met up with Sue’s brother, John, and his wife, Bonnie. our companions for this cruise as they have been in years past. Our ship, the Norwegian Escape was to leave from NYC on September 26th–we, the ship, and a fierce Nor’easter all arrived the night before.

Not to be deterred, we boarded the ship that morning, despite the wind and the rain. Boarding was a nightmare–that’s all you need to hear, but know that it is tough for anyone, and if you are unsteady on your feet and tire easily, the two to three hour wait to board was not what we expected, but by late afternoon, we and are luggage were finally reunited in Cabin 9246. That’s about half way up the the 17 decks on this monster of a ship. Picture a block long, twenty story building floating on the ocean, loaded with 4000 passengers and 1600 crew. (You can see the Escape in the background of the top picture above.)

The weather did delay our departure until the next day, when we finally set sail for Halifax, Nova Scotia, the first port in our 16 day voyage. Halifax is a very nice small city, very worth a short visit. I especially enjoyed seeing the graveyard where more than two hundred unidentified victims from the sinking of the Titanic are buried and memorialized. That evening we turned almost due East, heading to our next port of call, Punta del Gado, Azores, Portugal. (If you look on a map, you will see that th Azores and thus the Iberian Peninsula are just a bit South of East of Nova Scotia, something of a surprise to me.)

We sailed on that course for the next six days, each day we awoke up having gained an hour on the clock and lost an hour of sleep. After five days this begins to tell on you physically. Otherwise, it was delightful being in the open ocean with only the sea and sky about you. One of the best features of the Escape was Deck Eight which offers a 1/4 mile walking promenade completely circling the ship. Most days I was able to walk about two miles, countering somewhat the effects of three rich meals (with dessert, of course) and unlimited bar access. Without this opportunity, I am sure I would have gained 10 pounds or more.

Because of high winds and seas, we were unable to dock at Porto del Gado, so we steamed on to Madeira, Portugal. If you haven’t been to Madeira, you should go. The uninhabited island, which is several hundred miles out in the Atlantic west of the Iberian Peninsula and Morocco, was discovered and colonization by the Portuguese in the early 15th century, first exploited for its forests, then sugar, wine, and finally now as a tourist Mecca. A dormant volcano, it is a green oasis rising some 6000 feet out of the Atlantic, with lovely year round weather and fewer tourists than I feared. We fortunately found a great taxi driver who drove us all around the island in his very comfortable Mercedes van.

View of the open Atlantic from Madeira

Another sea day (and another lost hour of sleep) took us to Gibraltar. Gibraltar, a British protectorate since the 18th century, is not as quaint nor as interesting as Madeira, and the tour we took really didn’t show us too much of the “Rock” or its famous monkeys, but we did have a wonderful English high tea, including delicious scones, strawberry jam, and clotted cream.

The Rock of Gibraltar
The only Monkey I saw on Gibraltar

Our next stop was Melilla, an autonomous Spanish city in North Africa. Again we found a taxi driver who drove us around the town and countryside, even showing us the very tall stone wall and barbed wire fence that separates the city from it neighbor Morocco. Very recently, Melilla and a similar autonomous city, Ceuta, have been subjected to waves of Moroccan youths swimming from Morocco to the city seeking refuge. Most have been sent back home, but some have gained temporary refuge, all adding to Spain’s recent political instability. All was quiet when were there, and we enjoyed a peaceful glimpse of life in the “European island in Africa.”

John, Sue and I in Melilla–lovely coastline.

The next port where we chose to go ashore was Ibiza, Spain. Ibiza is well known for its nightlife and electronic dance music club scene in the summer, which attracts large numbers of tourists. The island’s government and the Spanish Tourist Office have worked toward promoting more family-oriented tourism. Our lovely taxi driver, Susanna did point out to us several “discos” as she called them, as we drove around, but we much preferred the Old Town and its medieval homes and churches. She was a delightful host, and I greatly enjoyed the opportunity to converse with her in Spanish.

We enjoyed Ibiza, but we were disappointed with Palma, Mallorca. The island is clearly being swamped with tourists, especially from cruise ships, like our. The day we were there, it was impossible to get a cab, and we were told that the hop on/hop off bus would not pick people up and left a number of people stranded. We did manage to see an interesting finca, Els Calderas, which reminded us of some of the haciendas we have seen in Mexico over the years.

Els Calderas, una finca mallorquina

Mallorca, I think epitomizes a real problem greatly exacerbate by the cruise ship industry. In the past, cruise ships were much smaller and primarily carried well-to-do people from one place to another, often in luxury. Today, the ships seem to be on steroids, seemingly growing bigger ever yea with each iteration. Instead of carrying 900 passengers, some of them carry four or five thousand passengers and 1500+ crew. Image being Venice or Mallorca or Santorini and four or five of these behemoths descend upon your community day after day. No wonder some of these places are beginning to push back. Cruise day-trippers really bring relatively little to the local communities.

Barcelona was our last stop, and we had a lovely time there, despite the crowds. Recently, there have been demonstrations against tourists and tourism in the city. After taking in a tour of La Sagrada Familia, I can well understand the sentiment. We had previously visited the beautiful church about a decade ago and were fortunate enough to view it when there were only a few fellow tourists, so we could appreciate its beauty and grandeur. My brother in law, John, had wanted to see it again as he had heard that it was to be finished this year. It isn’t and won’t be for another twenty years. This time, the crowds were horrendous and daunting, diminishing one’s appreciation of the architect, Antoni Gaudí, and his dream of a church to glorify Jesus and the Holy Family. Should you visit Barcelona, I don’t think I would recommend touring it.

La Sagrada Familia

That aside, I would have to say that our short two day visit to Barcelona was a wonderful end to our adventure. We very much enjoyed our hotel, Arc La Rambla. As the name implies it is located on La Rambla, a beautiful pedestrian street that winds through the old part of the city. La Rambla, however, is currently being torn up, to replace failing utility lines and bring the area into the 21st century.

That aside, we had some lovely meals, delicious gelato, a stroll through the most incredible outdoor market, and great sangría. And the highlight of our stay has to be our two hour TukTuk tour of the city, led by a recently arrived immigrant from Georgia (the country, not the state). He and his wife spent years saving money and filling out forms to qualify to emigrate. But they are happy; life is a lot freer in Spain than a Russia dominated Georgia.

We saw so much of the city, often up close and personal, we and were able to avoid the hordes of tourists, for the most part. We laughed so much as we rollicked along through Barcelona’s busy streets and then climbed to the highest point in the city for a spectacular view of the city. What a nice way to finish our stay in Barcelona and our Cruise.

Sometimes I have to pinch myself. We have had so many incredible opportunities to see and enjoy this beautiful world of ours.

Hers’ looking at you kid!

Seventy-Eight & Counting

I was born on July 18, 1948; somehow I have managed to chalk up 78 years, mostly through dumb-luck, good genes, and the gift of good physical and mental health.

How does it feel to be 78 you might ask? Pretty good, for the most part. I certainly don’t feel like I am 18, 38, or even 68, but I can still be physically active and enjoy walking and dancing–but am crap at swimming. I never was much of a runner and please don’t ask me to run a 100-yard dash, but otherwise. 

In the last decade, I have had some medical scares, open-heart surgery six years ago and a detached retina a couple of years ago. I almost certainly wouldn’t be alive today and definitely would be blind in my left eye without modern medicine. My dear Mother will turn 98 on July 22; she really has better genes than me, I think.

It’s scary facing getting older—Mom drove until her early 90’s and lived on her own until she was 95, but these last three years have been very difficult. She had to move into assisted living, and her health seems to degenerate almost daily. Her macular degeneration and glaucoma have robbed her of most of her sight—image not being able to see the face of your loved ones much less the food on your dinner plate. 

Mom can still walk but needs to use a walker to keep from falling, and someone of course has to help her to get from her room to the dining hall. Still, she is almost always upbeat & cheerful. But getting old is not for sissies, as they say, and I am not really sure that I will be able to meet the advancing years with her equanimity and stoicism.

But until that time comes I hope to be able to greet each day like the gift it is. There is always something interesting or worthwhile to do and friends and family to love and cherish. What a lucky man am I!

Erin & John on their way to Barbados

After a lovely visit of nearly two months–or Home Leave as the State Department calls it, Erin & John left Denver on Saturday After some required training in DC, they will then fly to Barbados on August 8th, where they will be posted for the next three years. After Cuba, they are hoping, as are we, that it will be a rewarding and enjoyable experience. We hope to visit them in the late fall.

On Sunday, Charlie left for a two week summer camp experience at Camp Chief Ouray. This is his fourth or fifth summer, and he always loves it. We’ll miss him, but know that he’s having a lot of fun!

Summer

I love the light that comes with Summer. When I wake up at 5:00 am, it is so exciting to look at the light just peaking in around the curtains in our bedroom. I know immediately that I won’t be able to go back to sleep, and that’s OK, because there is always something that needs doing!

Answering that email from a friend or relative that I managed to read, but didn’t have the time or energy to reply to.

Going to the Babble app and do my Spanish or Italian lesson for the day—they get you hooked by telling you that your streak is now 20 or even 200 days long & you can’t not do it today.

Plunking on the electric piano, always with the headphone, so no one else can hear.

Walking to the community garden plot to see if you need to water today or shake your head at how the bunnies are able to climb up on the raised bed & nibble your lettuce, squash or ripening tomatoes. The nice thing about walking is that I can listen to my current audio book and thanks to the public library, I almost always have one in progress and a couple on my hold shelf.

Back to the summer light. It is especially nice in the early morning, before the sun climbs too high in the sky and it is too uncomfortable to venture out of the shade, especially here in Colorado. Fortunately, even on most summer days, it is good to be out in the fresh air, especially if you can find a nice shade tree to sit under.

Just yesterday, Sue and I drove over to City Park, parked near the pavilion, and carried our new camp chairs to our favorite tree and settled in to eat our chicken salad sandwich lunch—it’s hard to imagine a lovelier day. The sun was high up in the sky & the temperature was 90+ but with the lovely breeze blowing over the lake, we couldn’t imagine anything better.

Charlie, our grandson, is 14 this year; he has entered puberty, so he has suddenly begun to shoot up, his voice has changed, and there is hair sprouting every where. The other day we picked him up to take him to a dental appointment, so it was just the three of us, no friends or other family members.

He, of course, had his phone in his hand, but we were able to get him to put it away and talk about his summer and how he feels about starting high school in the Fall. It was good to hear his thoughts and plans and his obvious excitement about his life and interests. After the checkup, we offered to take him to Hapa, his and our favorite Sushi Restaurant. Seated at an outdoor sidewalk table and over the lovely meal, we covered a lot of topics; I even got him to laugh at one of my “Dad jokes.”

And Boy, can he put away an Unagi Magi roll or three!

Great to Have Erin & John Back Home

Erin & John arrived back in Denver on May 11th. Fortunately, we can say that they will not have to return to Cuba ever again. Erin’s next posting will be to Barbados, and she and John will be going there sometime in late July. Meanwhile they have two months home leave to spend here in the States.

The Arkansas River in Buena Vista.

After spending a week with Sue (I was still in Europe), they decamped to Buena Vista–that’s Byoo-nuh Vista” (rhyming with “beautiful”) for non-Coloradans. While they were there, Sue and I twice made the two hour trip to this little tourist town to visit with them. We had never spent much time in the town and were very pleased with what we found. The drive from Denver to BV is incredibly beautiful; much of the time you are traveling through South Park, which is a grassland flat within the basin formed by the Rocky Mountains’ Mosquito and Rampart Mountain Ranges, where the cattle population far outnumbers the people.

Buena Vista or BV is on the Arkansas River and provides great hiking and river sports. This time of the year, the water is still very cold, but lots of people were kayaking and river surfing. We stayed on terra firma, but enjoyed walking along the Arkansas. The highlight of our first visit was a trip to the Royal Gorge and a ride on the Royal Gorge Railway, a somewhat pricey but delightful way to spend a day, admiring the scenery and the engineering marvel that it represents.

We enjoyed our first visit to BV so much that we asked Erin if we could bring Charlie for an overnight. She happily agreed, so we made the return trip after being back in Denver for only a couple of days. Charlie enjoyed the town and the opportunity to hike and spend time in nature. John is a hiking enthusiast, and he found a trail, Twin Lakes, that provide a good challenge for Charlie and something doable for me. John and Charlie teamed up and hiked the entire trail while Erin and I contented ourselves with navigating only about two thirds of it. Both “teams” had a good adventure.

The hot tub at Erin and John’s Airbnb rental was also a big hit.We couldn’t get anyone interested in a Wizard card game, so we all spent the evening watching The Green Book, a recent movie depicting what it was like for African American Blacks to travel in the Jim Crow era. It’s pretty shocking to watch, but probably doesn’t convey the real evilness of that period in American history. A good choice for our mixed age group crowd.

Twenty four hours, surrounded by adults was just about enough for Charlie so we headed back to Denver the next day–but I think it was a very successful outing all things considered. We were happy to see how much Charlie and John were able to bond over the hiking experience.

We just heard from Erin & Charlie, they are heading back to Denver from Yellowstone & Grand Tetons National Park. We are looking forward to their report on their experience.

More from Geneva

Today is my third day in my Italian Language School, A Door into Italy. I was assigned to a middle level group, as I expected—there are a few people here who are quite advanced and can hold sustained conversations in Italian, and then a group of relative beginners, and then there’s the rest of us. Still struggling with which tense to use and often failing to come up with the vocabulary one needs. After three days, though, I feel that I am making progress.

English, of course, is a common language for many of us, but my class of eight is very, very diverse. There is one other American man: an engineer from Hawaii on sabbatical from a job in South Sudan. The other man in the class is from Tokyo and is here in Italy working for his company which has sent him to school for three months to learn the language. The five women include a Ukrainian, a Palestinian, an Israeli, a French speaking Swiss, and finally a Tanzanian woman who met her Genovese husband online. The school’s winnowing seems to work pretty well, as we all seem on about the same level.

Yesterday, after class the school offered a guideded walking tour of the city, providing a great introduction to the city of Genova (Genoa). After several cool rainy days, the sun has come out and it feels like spring, so there are lots of people touring and shopping.

As I mentioned in my last post, my neighborhood seems to be a working class/middle class enclave. The tour took us through the heart of the city, including governmental and banking buildings, historic monuments like the city’s Duomo or Cathedral, San Lorenzo, and an area consisting of lots of small, narrow alleys with shops, businesses, galleries and restaurants.

This last area reminded me a lot of the central part of Siena. Even though the tour took us nearly two hours, we didn’t make it to what is called the Porto Antico area and the bayside promenade, which I hope to see in the next couple of days. I am adding some photos I took of our group as we wandered around.

Again, the duomo certainly is reminiscent of the duomo in Siena, although the Siena church seems to have been done by better craftsmen and artists. Still it is lovely to walk into these medieval buildings and be reminded of the bygone days of faith sacrifice.

Lilacs and Spring time in Denver

Sue and I just got back from an afternoon drive around Denver; spring has arrived here in Denver several weeks early. Usually the peak time for Lilacs is mid-May, and it is still early April. That probably portends a hot summer and a long fire season; let’s hope that’s not the case.

Anyway, back to the drive around Denver. One of our stops was City Park. Between the lake and the Nature & Science museum, there is a lovely grove of lilac bushes, with a large range of colors and varieties. Lilacs grow well here in Denver–they can survive our normally cold winters and our frequent droughts.

I have long loved lilacs as does Sue. I used to be able to luxuriate in their smell as well as their blossoms, but sometime during the Covid Pandemic, I lost most of my sense of smell. It is not completely gone, but these days, I can only detect a slight scent of most aromas that I used to enjoy–like lavender, lilacs and baking bread.

Lilacs always remind me of our dear friend, Marie Funkhauser–perhaps the kindest and most helpful neighbor one could ever have. We lived next door to Marie and her family in Alexandria, VA for more than 25 years. She took care of Bryn and Erin when thy came home from school. We knew that the children were always safe and lovingly cared for, making our work lives just a little bit less stressful.

Each spring, Marie would cut a huge bouquet of lilacs from the bushes in her backyard and bring them to Sue; the whole house would be filled with the aroma of lilacs for many days. What a lovely memory…and what a lovely friend.

Lilacs also bring to mind the first stanza of Walt Whitman’s tribute to the fallen Abraham Lincoln:

When lilacs last in the dooryard bloom’d, 

And the great star early droop’d in the western sky in the night, 

I mourn’d, and yet shall mourn with ever-returning spring. 

Ever-returning spring, trinity sure to me you bring, 

Lilac blooming perennial and drooping star in the west, 

And thought of him I love.

Happy Easter

Happy Easter Everyone. Spring has certainly arrived in Denver–way too early, but we can enjoy it nevertheless. I hope for you and yours, this is a time of renewal and reawakening.

I am most thankful for family and friends. Tell someone you love them today, it will make you and them feel better.

I have been remiss about posting lately–events in our world are so disheartening, but I am glad to be alive.

Orchid Show at the Denver Botanical Garden

Our friend, Martha Birney, recently invited us along with Mart & Bob Larson to join her at the Denver Botanical Garden to view their Orchid Show. We are all members of the Garden, and it is one of our favorite spots in the city in all seasons. My photo library is full of flower pictures going back to the time we first arrived in Denver more than a decade ago.

This show, while not large, did not fail to impress. If you are like us, you can’t pass up the orchids for sale at the supermarket, but given the dryness of our climate and the less than ideal growing conditions in our apartment, we have to treat them almost like cut flowers. You buy them, knowing that the blooms will last a month or, if you are lucky, three; but whatever the time, once the blooms have fallen off, you are faced with the dilemma of throwing them away or placing them in some forgotten corner, never to bloom again & then to be discarded at some later time when plant shelf space becomes scarce. (Actually you can sometimes coax them into rebooking if you happen to have an facing window and a lot of patience!)

But fortunately the Garden has the staff, resources, and conditions to grow a large variety of these lovely blossoming plants. They don’t have a detectable perfume, but boy are they stunning.

We thoroughly enjoyed our visit at the Garden, and then Martha treated us all to a sumptuous meal at a new Indian Restaurant, Curry & Grill 2. The food is wonderful with delicate flavors and just the right spiciness for our American palate. The staff were warm and welcoming and the service excellent. There were just a few other diners, which encouraged us to linger and talk, and we never felt any urgency to leave. We’ll definitely go back & soon.

The time spent with Mart & Bob is bittersweet these days for Martha B and us. They told us recently that they have decided to sell their apartment and move to the Quad Cities to be near their son, Isaac, daughter in law, Megan, and two young grandsons, Ezra & Jasper. Knowing how important Bryn, Joel and Charlie have been to us since our move to Denver, we can’t blame them, but we are certainly going to miss them immeasurably. Almost every Sunday, one of us hosts for brunch and then a very competitive card game of Wizard; we won’t know what to do with ourselves once they are gone!

Erin & John’s Visit–A Respite from Cuba

After a wonderful two weeks visit, John and Erin left this weekend to return to Cuba, thankfully now nearing the end of their two year assignment. They are slated to permanently leave the island in early May. Since their arrival in the summer of 2024, conditions on the ground in Cuba have deteriorated incredibly. Hunger, malnutrition, and rolling blackouts are the norm; the results of a US imposed embargo & a corrupt and ruthless regime that has no concern for the well-being of its citizens.

Recently they had a scary incident with their cat, Diego, who became very sick and nearly died. Erin first met Diego during her first State Department posting in Mexico City, when he followed her home one day. Fourteen years later, he’s like a child to both John and Erin. When they took him in for an emergency vet visit a few weeks ago, the clinic had neither running water nor electricity and couldn’t provide adequate care for the poor animal. Diego fortunately survived that illness, but they didn’t want to risk losing him if they had to rely on local veterinary care again, so they asked us if we would keep him for a few months if they brought him back to the States.

We readily agreed, even though Sue is allergic to cats, and I am not much of an animal lover. John & Diego arrived first, and when we visited their vet the next day, he was down to a little over seven pounds (down from his fighting weight of 12 pounds) and in pretty bad shape with kidney and heart disease. Still with a little care and lots of love, he is now doing much better. When Erin arrived just a few days later, she could already see how much Diego was improving. In a little more than two weeks he has put on a couple of pounds and seems content to be with the “grandparents.”

Diego will be with us for the next several months…, and, even I have to say he is a pretty special cat and keeps us entertained.

On another front, I have a book to recommend; the title is Theo of Golden, by Allen Levi. I checked out an audio version from the local library and have been enjoying listening to the story. The title character is an 86 year old Portuguese immigrant to the United States, who shows up one day in a small Georgia city (a fictionalized version of what has to be Athens?) Theo, as he insists on being addressed by one and all, is a cultured man who loves art, literature, and music and sees and nourishes the good in people he meets & comes to know. Some might call the book saccharine, but Theo sees the better angels in each and every person; perhaps a lesson for us all. I’d really like to meet a real-life Theo, but perhaps I need to first emulate his kindness and be on the lookout for the good.